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Understanding the Brain's Four Core Needs and Grief's Impact
Hi there, and thanks for being here. I want to share something with you that might just change the way you see grief. When we experience loss, the pain can feel overwhelming and confusing, but there's a powerful explanation for it rooted in how our brains are wired, according to the work of Neuropsychotherapist Klaus Grawe. Grawe's theory suggests that our brains are driven by four core needs that are fundamental motivators. When these needs are consistently met, we feel calm
Ali Mills
Sep 23, 20253 min read


Continuing Bonds
Article exploring the evidence-based concept of Continuing Bonds with reference to personal grief experience
Ali Mills
Jul 21, 20253 min read


Euphemisms and Grief: Why Language Around Death Matters
You've heard them, right? 🪷 My Dad passed away. 🪷 We lost Grandma. 🪷 Your brother is gone now. 🪷 We put the cat to sleep. 🪷 They're at peace now. 🪷 Your daughter is in a better place. These euphemisms all likely have come from a good place, originating from a sincere desire to provide comfort and support during one of the most challenging experiences a person can face: the death of a loved one. It is a natural human instinct to seek to soften the blow of such a profound
Ali Mills
May 14, 20255 min read


The world that WAS versus The World that IS
Loss happens and changes everything. It cordons off the world that WAS prior, a distinct and defined space filled with memories,...
Ali Mills
Mar 12, 20254 min read


Navigating Grief: My Insights as a Podcast Guest
A discussion about how resilience factors into the grief experience. Ideas on current theory, how it presents, and ways to support oneself.
Ali Mills
Feb 13, 20251 min read


The complexity of Grief
Grief is rarely just one thing. Often grief comes with a multitude of emotions, many that can feel too difficult to bear. This complex...
Ali Mills
Jan 14, 20252 min read


Grief Shatters Your Assumptive World: What Happens Next
Our assumptive world is like a mental framework that we unconsciously develop throughout our lives. It consists of beliefs, values, and expectations that shape how we perceive and interact with the world around us. These assumptions serve as a foundation that helps us navigate through the complexities of life, providing a sense of stability and predictability. These assumptions are deeply ingrained within us, influencing our thoughts, behaviours, and emotions without us even
Ali Mills
Nov 14, 20242 min read


Navigating Grief: Sharing My Insights as a Guest on a Podcast Episode
Grief and loss - we all experience it, but sometimes you might not recognise that’s what’s going on. Grief and loss show up in life over...
Ali Mills
Oct 10, 20241 min read


What is Grief?
What is Grief in a culture that doesn't do grief well? Let's do things differently with Grief Guide
Ali Mills
Sep 10, 20243 min read


Grief around Father's Day
Father's Day. A day of "shoulds" for many. You "should" be happy. You "should" be celebrating. Your relationship " should" look or feel a...
Ali Mills
Sep 4, 20242 min read


What do you think when I say "Death Café?" A place to discuss death and dying.
Death Cafe It's a strange term, isn't it? What do you think happens at a Death Café? Have you been to one? Would you go to one? I am quite a fan of Death Cafe's. They are a community space, where we come together to drink tea, eat cake, and dip our toes into a conversation about death and dying. A conversation that most of us avoid. Beyond this, there is no agenda. The conversation will go wherever the group requires it to go. Sometimes the group speaks about losses that they
Ali Mills
Sep 3, 20242 min read
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